Being Us
Small Practices to Deepen Connection
I’ve been thinking for a while about how to put together my thoughts, experiences, practices, and tools to strengthen our relationships and build deeper connections. I’ve been experimenting with a variety of connection tools and techniques with my coaching clients and in my own relationships, and I’d love to share what I’ve learned.
I have touched on this in many of my blog posts – but I am going to address it more formally in a series of essays I plan to publish. The series will be called Being Us.
You see, I do believe that all our relationships deserve our full attention and our best intentions. That includes the relationships we cultivate within ourselves and with others.
Too often, I have clients, friends, or family members who sense something off or wrong in their relationship. Something just doesn’t feel right. It doesn’t have to be anything big – it could be a recurring issue, a pattern, or a brewing conflict. Or, yes, it can be something more significant — a major crisis or issue that is taking over the relationship.
Either way, we may be quick to point the finger at the other person, thinking that if they would just change, that would remedy the situation.
Yet, more often than not, the real work begins with us.
That isn’t to say the other person or people in the relationship don’t have a role to play – they certainly do – but I believe that the best way to find a way through whatever is happening begins by turning our attention inward, to ourselves, with a kind and gentle curiosity.
It is with this curiosity in mind that I invite you, my dear readers, to engage with the essays that will follow in this series. I’ve not written them all, so I’d love to hear in the comments or in a direct message about any specific challenges or relationship topics you’d like me to address.
Stay tuned for my first Being Us essay. It will either describe my philosophy on relationships (Hint: there are three entities in your relationship!) or explore the power of pausing when we want to make a change in our behavior or thoughts.
My goal with the series is to support you in moving toward yourself and the people in your life with greater love, clarity, compassion, and authenticity.
Until next time – simply be yourself, as it’s the first step toward becoming us.